Flying by the seat of your pants tends to leave them shredded on arrival.
Mama dug deep into mommy territory this week, kiddos. We are (sort of, almost, kind of) on an actual schedule around here! We ‘wake up’ at 7: lights on, happy baby babble, change for the day, TV or radio in the background for extra noise. We now have two morning naps of about 1/2 hour and one afternoon nap that’s usually 2 to 3 hours long. Bath time is at 7:30 and we’re in bed by 8. Of course he’s awake 3 times during the night to eat, but for a 7 week old I think we’re doing pretty well.
Although I’ve never really acknowledged it, I crave routine. I need to know what I’m supposed to do next and what’s going on in the future. It is possible that I have a teeny tiny issue with control. *pause for uproarious laughter from anyone who knows me* Of course I will deny this to my dying breath because… yeah, I can’t think of a good reason. I’m a puzzle.
The point of all of this is that one of the things that’s been hardest for me in becoming a mom has been feeling totally out of control. I lost control over my body, my emotions, my daily routine and my future. People ask me what’s a good day to come pay tribute to the Tyrant and I have no idea! My house looked like a baby/clothing/dishes bomb had gone off and it didn’t seem to bother anyone but me. I never knew when I could take a shower or go to the store. Everyone kept telling me to “sleep when His Highness sleeps” – but if I did that and it ended up being the only nap of the day then we’d be screwed when dinner time came around. There is only so much take out you can eat.
Part of dealing with my PPD has been being honest – about being sick and about what I need to do to get better. The first piece of help came from my friend Prom Date’s Mom. We used to work together and we were pregnant together. She gave birth to Prom Date 5 weeks before Tiny Tyrant claimed his throne. (I decided that they would go to prom together pretty much the second I knew he was a boy. These kids are totally screwed!) PDM recommended an awesome book – The No Cry Sleep Solution. It’s more about setting up a routine that works for your family than it is just about sleep. We’ve been working it all week. It has taught me that he is right on track for his age group and given me tools to plan for more sleep in the future. LOVE THIS BOOK!
The second piece of help came from So Much for the Mother of the Year Award on Facebook when she linked to a post about FlyLady.net. This wonderful woman has set up a step by step system to get your life, your house, your finances and your weight under control. Seriously. It takes time (probably at least a year to get where I want to be) but it’s all in baby steps so it isn’t overwhelming and it’s FREE. I look forward to the daily emails like messages from an old friend. You wouldn’t believe it but in ONE WEEK my bathrooms are clean, my kitchen sparkles and the laundry is DONE! My sister is coming to visit this weekend and I have nothing to do to get ready. No running around trying to stuff things in closets and frantically cleaning.
I know that it has only been a week, but I’m less stressed and sleeping better. I can nap when His Grace The Duke of Babydom naps because I have a plan. Are we ever actually on schedule? Rarely. Is there at least one surprise every day? One. That’s cute.
Hopefully I’ll be able to stick with it because time flies by so fast! The Emperor of House of G has already outgrown his newborn AND 0-3mos onesies and his size 1 diapers won’t fit much longer. My Tiny Monkey is becoming a Chubby Monkey and as much as I love that I know I need to remember as much as I can each and every day – because these days won’t last long. Which is why we start each day taking a picture for MeMe and Grammy and why I always leave room in the plan for nibbling tiny baby toes 🙂
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