Ok – here it is:
One day a week I take the night off. When Dork Dad gets home I am free. I can stay in the house and be “invisible” or I can go out for a while. I have a feeling my choice will depend on whether or not I have episodes of something good to watch on my laptop 😉
I’m going to start going to two PPD/A support groups. Don’t worry, I’ll still love you guys the most, but I need to get over my fear and anxiety and just go. And I need face time with other mommas who are going through this. Each one is once a month, so pretty much every other week I’ll have a group.
On Friday nights DD will stay up or be ‘on duty’ until at least 4am. Then he gets to sleep in as late as he wants on Saturday. It worked last night. I went to bed around 10 and didn’t wake up until 4:45 this morning. IT WAS AMAZING!!! I’ve been up since then and I haven’t felt this good since the Baron of Burps was born.
On Saturday night we switch. I’m on duty until 4, and then I’m off for the rest of the day. I have no baby responsibilities until bath/bottle/bed on Sunday night.
If there is a bad night during the week I am REQUIRED to wake him up. That’s the one that I don’t see really happening.
So if this plan works out I’ll get a night off each week, time with other moms, and real sleep over the weekend as well as time off on Sunday to do… whatever I want!!! This sounds like Mommy Heaven.
Of course we can’t implement the full plan this week because I have to study for a real estate exam so he’ll be taking over baby duty every night while I study for the test next Monday.
*** It worked pretty well over the weekend. We both got sleep, we both got time with the Duke of Drool and we both got to do other things (me/study, him/football) so far, so good!