It started with So Much For The Mother Of The Year Award. Then I found a group called Ask Moxie. There’s I Want A Dumpster Baby and DeBie Hive. Dads Who Change Diapers and Ask Your Dad Blog. Now there’s Juicebox Confession and the Snarky Hippie and Bad Parenting Moments. And SO MANY MORE!
In my house we call them the Online Mommy Collective or the Online Daddy Collective. They keep us sane. They make us laugh. They share stories and jokes. They scare us about what’s ahead for us as parents (apparently poop will be smeared everywhere) and they help us through the hard times now.
When Dork Dad and I can’t figure out what to do the first place we turn is to the OMC/ODC. That is how we found our sleep consultant – who literally changed our lives radically and with minimal crying. It’s how we found out about Baby Led Weaning – which has led to some really interesting diaper changes (He pushes food into his diaper. Is he saving it for later? This is so confusing! ). They are the ones we read every day and reach out to when things get hard, hilarious, adorable, weird, smelly or strange… or any combination of those.
I know that the Mommy Wars are never-ending and it seems like the Daddy Wars are heating up. I find both to be supremely sad and a waste of our time and emotional energy. We need each other. This thing that we are all doing – as joyous and fulfilling as it is – is also excruciating and draining. We need the advice of others who have gone before us and we need the support of those who are in the trenches with us.
I don’t always agree with everything that they say. I don’t take every piece of advice. This is my life and my child and I am responsible for both. Still, I know that hearing their voices and being heard in return has made me a better mother and has made Dork Dad a better father. We are grateful for them all.
I hope you all have your own OMC/ODC! Please leave links in the comments to a couple of pages that you love.
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