Being a first time parent is hard. Everyone has advice. EVERYONE. But how do you know what you’ll actually need to know? I asked the experts – parents. I asked seven of my favorite parenting bloggers what was the one piece of advice that they wish they’d gotten before they brought home their first child. The answers are funny, practical, heartfelt and just genius. Over and over I said, “Oh, me too!” So here it is, we’re letting you in on the secrets that no one tells you before baby comes home – our best tips for first time parents!
Bringing home baby:
Brett from This Mama Loves
Not all kids LIKE the car! Our firstborn screamed the entire ride home from the hospital!
The First Days:
I wish someone-anyone had told me to expect to feel a little anxious on first bringing baby home and settling in to your new life. Suddenly everything has changed. It’s a wonderful, exciting feeling too but it’s also quite scary and that’s not mentioned enough. I remember wondering why the doctors and nurses had let me leave the hospital- entrusting me with another little person’s life! Ultimately, first-time parents need to hear, ‘Don’t worry, it’s normal to feel freaked out, you’ve got this. Take things slowly, always trust your gut and reach out when you need to’.
Vicki from The Honest Mum
I wish someone had told me how hard the first weeks were, that my frustration and exhaustion was normal and that it would get better.
That, and I really would have liked support from family about nursing.
Kelly from DeBie Hive
I wish someone would have told me to take more pictures when I brought my daughter home. I felt ugly, was bloated, and still kind of sick, but wish I had more photos from those precious few days of us together as part of my memories.
Brandi from Mama Knows It All
Since we all basically have little studios on our phones, my advice today would be to make a video diary to remind yourself of those moments. And don’t listen to the people who tell you to put your phone away and live in the moment. It is completely possible to both enjoy a performance or game or party or whatever, and snap a few pictures or record a few minutes of video. The key is to just record what’s going on while enjoying it, and not try to stage it or change things. Now that we’re getting close to my oldest leaving for college, I cherish the pictures and videos we have of his childhood even more.
Amy from Selfish Mom
I wish I had known it could take for my milk to come in. It took mine 5 days to come in, and I was devastated, thinking I could never be able to breastfeed. I ended up breastfeeding my first little one for nearly two years, my second for 18 months, and my third for 2 1/2 years. Don’t give up if your milk doesn’t come in for a few days!
Erin from The Humbled Homemaker
Making it all work:
I wish that someone had told me, and if someone did that I had listened more intently, that my kid’s childhood is something worth sacrificing career and money to bear witness to, that having my child spend nearly 10 hours a day / 5 days a week in a daycare with strangers instead of at home with at least one parent so that we might have more stuff, cars, whatever, is a fool’s equation.
I eventually came to this point on my own, but I missed 4 years of bonding with my oldest daughter before we had our priorities straight and finances figured out for me to be a dad full time. We can never get those 4 years back and I don’t remember or care about what we did with the money I made during that time.
Jeff from Out With The Kids
WAIT A MINUTE!
You didn’t think I’d let you leave without sharing a little something that I learned along the way, did you? Here it is, my number one tip for new parents: Think of the first 3 months of your baby’s life as your 4th trimester and be selfish! Be as careful and kind to yourself after baby is born as you have been preparing for baby. Click Here For My Best Tips on lowering your risk of postpartum depression during that 4th trimester.
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