Some moms want a clean house.
Or to pee alone.
Or to BE alone.
Some want a fancy dinner.
A quiet bath.
A living room with absolutely no Legos anywhere on the floor.
What I see in all of the posts across my social media feeds about Mother’s Day is one thing – moms wanting what is missing. Help, recognition, community, space, respect – these are the things I see women asking for. It seems to me that we’re expecting one day to make up for how we’re treated (and how we treat ourselves) the other 364. But that’s not how this works.
That’s not how any of this works.
Whatever the thing is that is missing in your life, whatever the thing is that you wish for this Mother’s Day, you deserve that throughout the year. I’m not saying that every day of your life should be perfect. But mama, it isn’t supposed to be like this.
You don’t have to feel pressured to have an amaaaaaaazing day.
Your family doesn’t have to feel pressured to give you an amaaaaaaazing day.
The cookie cutter holiday card 30-second commercial version of Mother’s Day is not your only choice. Waking up on Sunday morning and not glowing for 24 hours does not mean that you (or anyone in your family) did it wrong.
Mamas – stop it. Stop pressuring yourselves to have an amazing day. Stop being angry at your family for not being able to read your mind. Stop pouring out 364 days a year and thinking that one day will fill you back up. Is it working for you?
What if you expected to be respected, cared for, centered, and elevated every day of the year? How would that change your life? How would it change your family’s life?
You are more than a mother. You need more than motherhood. It is okay to need more than just Mother’s Day.
This Mother’s Day I’d like you to give yourself a present. Get specific about what’s going wrong or what’s missing, and we will make a plan to change it. You aren’t alone in this. We will walk this road together.
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