Be the one you needed.
That’s been my business motto since before I actually had a business. It is the ‘why’ behind everything that I do – writing, advocacy, coaching, community creation. My drive comes from the never-ending emails, blogs, tweets, and posts that I see from mothers in pain.
Mothers who never stop.
Mothers who give and give.
Mothers who are sure they are doing everything wrong.
Mothers who have been Mommy for so long that some days they forget their own name.
Each of them thinks that they are the only one screwing everything up this bad. Each of them thinks that other moms actually know what we’re doing. Each of them thinks that other moms aren’t hurting, that we aren’t confused, that our houses are clean, our laundry is folded, and our fridge is full of healthy food that our kids actually eat.
We’re all fooling ourselves.
We treat mothers like they are inhuman and expect them to be superhuman but the truth is that mothers are people. Just people. Human beings with dreams and desires, foibles and flaws that did not magically disappear when they became parents.
Something amazing happened when I started to tell the truth about how hard it is to be a mother – I found out that I wasn’t alone. From every corner of the internet, mothers stepped out of the shadows to share their stories.
The moms who cry in the bathroom.
The moms who yell.
The moms who open their mouths only to hear their own mother’s voice come out.
The moms JUST. WANT. ONE. DAMN. MINUTE. ALONE.
The moms in therapy.
The moms on medication.
The moms who wonder if there is something more than this.
And so I started studying. I read more self-help and inspirational books than I could count. I listened to podcasts, I followed teachers and coaches, I talked to my therapist. I finally went to school to become a life coach and got my certification.
I have created courses. I have written until my fingers cramp. I have spent hours on the phone or on video chat with clients. And still, there are more moms hurting like I did. Every day inside The Self-Care Squad there is another mother reaching out – thinking that it’s just her. Each time that I tell her that she’s not alone there is a moment of disbelief.
How do I show mothers that our struggle to hold onto self is universal? How do I reach more people? How do I take all the knowledge, the experience, the hours of reading, studying, and coaching and share it as widely as it is needed? And how can I make sure that the amazing coaches and experts that I have found on my own journey are also found by as many mothers as possible?
These are the questions that led me to create The Mom Center.
The Mom Center is a social network for mothers – but more than that it is a place where parents are PEOPLE FIRST. Inside you’ll find a community of mothers who want to know more about you than what style of potty training you used or how you feel about attachment parenting. You’ll find community, expert coaches, prompts and challenges, room to rant, space to celebrate, and you can find YOU.
The doors of The Mom Center are open for all the mothers. It is the place I wish I had found. It is a place where mothers are people.
I needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t alone.
I needed a place to learn how to find myself again.
I needed a place where I could be honest about the hard parts of motherhood as well as the Instagram perfect parts.
I needed a place where I had access to books, podcasts, articles, teachers, and coaches.
I needed a place where I could hear myself think – away from the constant distractions of notifications.
I needed a place where I could be ME and a place where that would be welcomed and encouraged.
I couldn’t find that place, so I created it. If you are a mother who has been searching for a place where mothers are people, a place where you fit, a place where you are welcomed with all of your imperfections, a place where there isn’t a parenting test you have to pass – The Mom Center is it.
Be the one you needed. Maybe I finally am.
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