After recovering from postpartum depression and anxiety I felt the need to prove that I was a great mom. I gave, and I gave, and I gave until it hurt. I put my son’s needs above mine, I put my partner’s needs above mine. I volunteered, I wrote, I organized, and I just kept giving and giving and I never felt like it was enough. All of the things I used to love had been replaced by the wants of my family and the demands of my community. Everything was going out and not much was coming in.
I sat in my therapist’s office one day sobbing because I knew I was going to be a terrible mother. “I just can’t push myself any further down the list”, I told her, “There’s no room”. That was the day I knew I had to make a change. I started putting myself at the top of my list and traded in self-sacrifice for self-respect. By focusing on what I wanted and needed I was able to make room in all of our lives for my daughter and go from pissed off, stressed out and overwhelmed, to satisfied, joyful and grateful.
I am a coach who is passionate about giving expectant parents and mothers the tools and support they need to find joy and fulfillment in parenthood. Since 2015 I have been coaching mothers and running classes to help women get the same results I did. I have helped hundreds of women through my Facebook group, The Self-Care Squad. My coaching clients gain clarity and take action to change their lives.
I created this site to chronicle my journey through postpartum depression and anxiety and my diagnosis of PTSD. I found a forum and a community that saved me and lit a fire within me to save other mamas. I believe that we should be educating and empowering expectant parents. I believe that motherhood should be respected and that the challenges that mothers face should be addressed by private groups and government at the local, state, and national level.
Dork Dad is a software engineer who loves his family, the Buffalo Bills, Star Wars, online role-playing games and TV shows written by Aaron Sorkin. He is an AWESOME dad, a fan of craft beers and he (usually) doesn’t roll his eyes when I re-load the dishwasher after he’s loaded it.
Dislikes: people who don’t use the oxford comma, mushrooms, and idiocy.
The Little Monster will be four soon. Isn’t that enough??? No? Ok – he loves trains, cars, books, coloring, Mickey Mouse and his baby sister. Mama and Daddy have to battle it out for any scraps of love and affection he has left over.
Dislikes: wearing pants, letting either of his parents close a bathroom door, pooping on the potty.
The Little Miss is the newest addition to our family. She arrived in November 2015 and loves her big brother, yogurt, snuggling with Mama, and climbing on Daddy.
Dislikes: teething, when Mama wears jewelry, and sleeping.
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